Butterfly on a Wheel
aka Shattered

Abby, the wife (Maria Bello) is the mastermind behind it all. She found out about an affair Neil was having with a woman named Judy, and felt so betrayed that she schemed a plan to make her husband feel the same. For her plan, Judy's husband, Tom (Pierce Brosnan) faked a kidnapping of Neil and Abby's Daughter (who, in fact was safe at home all the time with a babysitter).

Tom makes Neil destroy his own life, but it isn't real (Tom doesn't really burn Neil's money, Abby doesn't give incriminating evidence about Tom to the competitor) - It's just a show.

Thanks Gil!